Translations:Guest Etiquette: Being Invited Again/6/en

There is also a distinction worth drawing between politeness and attentiveness. Politeness is a surface behaviour and can be maintained without any real awareness of the other person. Attentiveness involves noticing: whether the host seems tired, whether an offer of help is genuine or ritual, whether a topic of conversation is landing well. Community experience suggests that hosts remember attentiveness far more clearly than formal courtesy.