Translations:Following Up Afterwards/13/en

Where alcohol or other substances were involved, recollections may differ, and this can carry into follow-up messages. Approaching such conversations without accusation, and acknowledging uncertainty where it exists, tends to be more constructive than insisting on a single version of events.

| Reality=Reality Check: the most common source of emotional harm afterwards is not rudeness but ambiguity. Vague warmth that implies more interest than exists can leave someone waiting for weeks. This is rarely malicious; it is usually an attempt to avoid an uncomfortable moment. The discomfort is not removed by postponing it, only transferred.